Not so good at this...

The updates have been few and far between for two reasons:  one is my laptop's motherboard and hard drive crashed at the same time!  (You know you're adopting when....LOL) The other is that we have not had anything exciting happen since my last post.

We were submitted May 30 and registered and approved June 19.  Usually, it only takes a week or two after being registered to receive a letter of invitation to the DAP, i.e. a "travel date".  That has not been the case for us.  And we don't know why.

We should have known our date by the first week of July, at the latest.  Our date should have been 4 weeks after that, so around late July/early August.  Some people who submitted the same week we were submitted already have their dates and they are last week of July and first week or August.  We still don't have an official invitation letter.  On July 5, our facilitator called the DAP to ask them if we had a date yet, and was told that it was "middle of August", but they would not give an exact date on the phone.  They then said that the letter could be picked up July 9 or 10.  But when our facilitator went to pick them up, there was no letter!  The DAP said they had to reschedule all dates! UGH!

Our facilitator called the DAP to get to the bottom of things on July 12.  The DAP said that our child's diagnosis was not on the "first line" list.  This "first line" list is the list of special needs that get appointments sooner.  We were placed in the "regular line" with healthy kids.  Our kiddo is far from healthy.   An in fact, the main diagnosis is on the list!  So, our facilitator, being the awesome advocate that she is for both our family and our kiddo, drove all the way to our child's orphanage to speak to the director and to ask the director to write a letter to the DAP stating our child's need for medical attention.  The director refused, but did say they were happy we were adopting this kiddo and would receive us with great pleasure when we got there!  (The director also would not allow for any information or photos, saying that the referral was needed for those things! UGH x 2!!)

Our facilitator then drove all the way back to the DAP to ask for the date.  They still could not give an answer, only that now it looked like end of August.  UGH x 3!!!!  The DAP told our facilitator to call back on Friday July 19.  

On July 19, our facilitator made a call and was told that we were on the list for Sept 3, but it still was not set in stone, it needed the approval of the director.  We heard NOTHING for a week.

That brings us to today.  Our facilitator called the DAP today and was told to call back at 4pm (their time).  We still do not know anything.  Still.... nothing.... not one iota....  sigh.

I just want to get there and get home.  I want to be here for the first day of school for Matalie.  She is going into kindergarten this year.  She has selective mutism and that makes going to school scarier for her than your average 5 yr old.  Oh yeah, and she turns 5 on the first day of school!  I am hoping that taking cupcakes on her first day will alleviate some fears and worries and she will be excited to take cupcakes to school.

I am going insane with worry about childcare.  We were supposed to travel in July.  I took my kids to Kansas in June, hoping to leave them with my parents while we traveled.  We decided after not hearing anything that it would be best to come back home and wait.  I need to get school supplies, school clothes, and get packed up and ready to go.  I am so glad I did that because we came home on July 12, and we still don't know anything!

I am just as lousy at waiting as I am at blogging.